what to do
03-04-2008, 10:42 PM
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what to do
well...my sister is 17..just got kicked out of highschool for drugs...
senior year
she is dateing some like 26 yr old dude
working a dead end job
on probation
supposedly cleaned uo
makes no attempt to do anything
...and i just found out she is doing pill...smoking...and coke again
what the **** am i supposed to do
.....no bull**** comments either
senior year
she is dateing some like 26 yr old dude
working a dead end job
on probation
supposedly cleaned uo
makes no attempt to do anything
...and i just found out she is doing pill...smoking...and coke again
what the **** am i supposed to do
.....no bull**** comments either
03-05-2008, 05:20 AM
#4
You need to sit down and have a serious talk with her man.
Tell her how you feel and that you care for her.
Tell her you want her to get her life back on track.
You just have to be caring, loving, and supportive. She is still young and I think she is making some stupid young kid decisions in life. First things first you need to get her off any drugs she is on because they do no good for anyone. Just be there to help guide her and influence her to make "wiser" decisions
Tell her how you feel and that you care for her.
Tell her you want her to get her life back on track.
You just have to be caring, loving, and supportive. She is still young and I think she is making some stupid young kid decisions in life. First things first you need to get her off any drugs she is on because they do no good for anyone. Just be there to help guide her and influence her to make "wiser" decisions
03-05-2008, 07:01 AM
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You need to sit down and have a serious talk with her man.
Tell her how you feel and that you care for her.
Tell her you want her to get her life back on track.
You just have to be caring, loving, and supportive. She is still young and I think she is making some stupid young kid decisions in life. First things first you need to get her off any drugs she is on because they do no good for anyone. Just be there to help guide her and influence her to make "wiser" decisions
Tell her how you feel and that you care for her.
Tell her you want her to get her life back on track.
You just have to be caring, loving, and supportive. She is still young and I think she is making some stupid young kid decisions in life. First things first you need to get her off any drugs she is on because they do no good for anyone. Just be there to help guide her and influence her to make "wiser" decisions
03-05-2008, 07:50 AM
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to really get to the root of a problem like this you need to have an extremely strong family structure. the family also needs to make this #1 priority.
If i had a child in this situation:
1.) One of the parents quits his/her job and focuses entirely on the child.
2.) Group mediation.
3.) Meet a psychiatrist
4.) Rehab programs, that one of the parents attends with the child everytime.
5.) Don't expect miracles over night.
6.) A person addicted to drugs has to change for themselves not for anyone else (like any form of addiction).
7.) Whole lotta love.
8.) Expect 100 failures until you have 1 success.
9.) I view the current situation like this:
Take the number of years of drug abuse, and multiply that by 2.5 to calculate how long it will take to really solve the problem. Obviously it can be much shorter, or much longer. But at least you give yourself a time line on how long you're looking at.
As most people can't quit their job without major consequences on day to day life. I would also say other than parents, siblings have to make time to help the other through such a hard time. Sadly a lot of variables....
It's a hard freaking task. Good luck with it.
If i had a child in this situation:
1.) One of the parents quits his/her job and focuses entirely on the child.
2.) Group mediation.
3.) Meet a psychiatrist
4.) Rehab programs, that one of the parents attends with the child everytime.
5.) Don't expect miracles over night.
6.) A person addicted to drugs has to change for themselves not for anyone else (like any form of addiction).
7.) Whole lotta love.
8.) Expect 100 failures until you have 1 success.
9.) I view the current situation like this:
Take the number of years of drug abuse, and multiply that by 2.5 to calculate how long it will take to really solve the problem. Obviously it can be much shorter, or much longer. But at least you give yourself a time line on how long you're looking at.
As most people can't quit their job without major consequences on day to day life. I would also say other than parents, siblings have to make time to help the other through such a hard time. Sadly a lot of variables....
It's a hard freaking task. Good luck with it.
03-05-2008, 04:31 PM
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03-05-2008, 04:44 PM
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keep an eye on her while she's trying to stop the addiction. and the boyfriend, he's probly as big a problem.
search everything she's got and clean out her room, car, etc.
remember, you might have to be cruel to be kind.
search everything she's got and clean out her room, car, etc.
remember, you might have to be cruel to be kind.
03-05-2008, 08:21 PM
#12
A good idea would be to find a relative that is nice and far away, make her move in with them for a year or two. That way she is far from the bf, doesn't know anyone in the area that she can get the drugs from, so she will have to stay clean for a while, which should get her thinking and maybe get her back on track to how she should be acting.
Goodluck, and hopefully nothing worse happens to her.
Goodluck, and hopefully nothing worse happens to her.
